Frequently asked Questions
Why
isn't my ad up yet?
Your ad
(profile) is approved before becoming visible to others. Under normal
conditions this takes up
to a maximum of 10 minutes but is usually less than 5 minutes. We have
an administrative team
employed to look after the approvals 24x7.
I'm
new to swinging, how do I get into the scene?
The best
way to get into the scene is to answer an ad or post your own. That's
what this site is all about! As this question often comes from single
males let me offer some direct advice to that group - try answering ads
first in the Couples for males section - always be polite - send full
photographs, cock shots may not get you as many responses. If at first
you don't succeed - try, try again. If someone says they are going to
the Bermuda triangle for an extended holiday take the hint and move on
to the next ad.
I'll
be in Town on x night. How do I get a really beautiful girl?
I cannot
guarantee action to anyone - not even myself! You have four options here
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1. use
some foresight and planning and answer some ads a few weeks before your
trip to arrange a meeting
2. visit
a swing club during your visit
3. put a
posting on the forum - you may get lucky
4. call
an escort
If
anyone has additional ideas/options on this theme let me know.
How does one get started as an escort?
Other
than placing the ads I have little contact with escorts. I encourage you
to contact them directly. Remember these are professionals whose time
and expertise are valuable and treat them accordingly.
How
do I start my own adult site?
First,
you will need to give up all your other hobbies and interests.
Maintaining a site is a lot of work which doesn't leave much time for
other things. Remember that if you create a site that people like, they
will be very demanding, and keep asking for more content.
If you
want to go ahead and build one, there are many excellent tutorials on
website building available through any search engine on the web.
I will
also build you websites go to
http://www.ddproductions.co.uk for more details.
I will be in the City on x day. Please send me details of clubs/parties.
All the
information I have on house parties and commercial clubs is on the site
"Clubs and Parties".
If you have details about clubs or parties in your area please send them
to me and I will add them to the site.
Please introduce me to Jane/Sue/Lynn etc.
I do not
do personal introductions except between people I know, and who I think
may get on well together.
David, I have had no responses to my ad - or no one responds to my
emails.
This is
a free world, and to be realistic I have no
means by which to "make" people respond to ads or to mails sent in
response to an ad. People have thousands of reasons why they may not
respond.
Men
please be aware - couples and ladies who advertise for men get so many
responses it is impossible for them to respond to all of them - To try
and understand the problem I have been talking to a few of the new
advertisers. They have told me that the response rate has been in excess
of 500 emails a week. This means that to read the responses alone takes
a very long time. If it takes one minute to read each mail, it takes
more than eight hours to read 500 mails, and replying to them, even at
30 seconds a mail takes more than four hours. Emails with pictures slow
the process down, especially when you send them at high resolution
(greater than 96dpi) and/or where the image is very large - greater than
a maximum of 600x400 (this is plenty large enough to let people see you
- greater resolution and size is only needed when you want to print a
picture).
Don't
respond to ads where you do not fit the criteria of the advertiser. You
are wasting their time, your time, and clogging up the mail system with
hundreds of pointless emails.
Please
read the etiquette section to be found on the links above.
David, is my email link working?.
Yes. I
cannot force people to reply, but your mail has reached them, and if
they have tried to respond their mail will be in one of your in boxes
inside your profile. You can check if the recipient has read the
mail by checking your Torrevieja swingers mailbox. Click on mail, then click
on sent mails. If the mail you send has the word "new" in red, the
person you have sent the mail to has not yet read it. If does not have
anything then they have opened it.
Remember
that if the word new is still there after a few days, you may well have
ended up in their non-matched bin.
Can you tell me where to find:
- a
turkish/swedish/dominant escort? - check my ad listings, or some of the
links to other escort boards. I do not have time to browse the internet
very often, when I do, I am not looking for escorts.
- a
discreet hotel in Madrid/London/Paris where I can take my girlfriend? - use a
search engine and look for hotels+cityname.
My
wife/husband is not keen on the idea of swinging, how can I persuade
her/him?
You
cannot without risking your marriage, talk about it, but don't push it.
If it is not something you both want to do, don't do it - it will end in
tears.
What
is acceptable content?
It is
easier to say what is not acceptable: this is my list, not a legal
requirement
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No
Children to be involved (a person under the legal age of consent) in
any sex act or picture. (If I think a person looks under age I will
ask for picture id (a passport) as proof of age/identity)
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No
animals to be involved.
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No
violence - beyond mild bondage/spanking.
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No
pix of scatt.
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No
mention of Rape or sex under duress
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No
pictures of girls on a single males profile.
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Genital
shots (cocks and pussies) must be accompanied by a face picture or a
full length body shot (knees to shoulder minimum)
I will
always reserve the right to pull any ad that I do not think fits in with
the tone of the site.
What
do I do at a swinging party?
Have a
look at the information on the "Etiquette" page listed on menu above.
Why
don't you have a chat room?
I have
now got an excellent chat room, and a video chat room integrated in the ads system.
can
I buy you a beer?
Yes
please - mine's a pint of Stella in the UK, or a large Mahou in Spain ;)).
created
revised:
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7th
September 2000
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24th
April 2001
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October 10th 2003
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December 12th 2004
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July
3rd 2006
Thanks
to a young lady in America for creating this page, and preparing most of
the content for me.
And
thanks to Hils in France for her grammar corrections.
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